Become A Mentor

Our mentors are ordinary adult men - from all walks of life. They are teachers, technicians, salesmen, lawyers, students, men without work at the moment, entrepreneurs and many more besides. Some have mentored before, most have not. What they share is a desire to make a difference in the life of someone else, which they nearly always do!

Time is something most people struggle with: busy lives can make it seem difficult to carve out even more of it. The simple truth is however, you make the time just as you would for anything that you believe is important.

You do not need to give money or gifts to the boys or support them financially in any way. Mentoring is about giving them something much more precious - your time and your commitment. Yet, for a financially unpaid activity the payoff is huge. Most mentors actually admit to feeling guilty that they receive more from mentoring than the boys. This probably isn't true - the boys are truly benefiting too, but mentoring is a genuine demonstration of the time hallowed principle of 'give and it shall be given to you’. Done properly, mentoring is as satisfying to the giver and the receiver.

Find out what our Mentee's think of their Mentors here

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What Are the Features of the BACK2LIFE Mentoring Programme?

Firstly, all our mentors are male*. This is important because it is the same sex adults in a child's life that provide the most compelling role models and give him a mirror for him to see possibilities for his own life.

Secondly, we work as a community, which provides a really powerful support system for both boys and mentors alike. It works for the boys because they eventually come to understand that their challenges are really no different from anyone else's (both peers and mentors) and they are not alone. Plus they get to experience different mentors and see that success can look different in each person and that difference is okay. Our mentors like it because it provides them with support for their mentoring work. No one is ever alone in the process.

Thirdly, transformation really happens. It is not guaranteed of course - nothing in life is - but for some, many even, magic occurs as the boy begins to see that someone cares enough to spend the time to show him how to transition from failure to success and from boyhood to manhood. This is when you will see improved grades, more consistent attendance at school, improved respect for teachers and staff, and improved behaviour generally. His teachers will recognise the change and so will his parents. But more importantly, so will he, and so will you.

Fourthly, the regularity of the visits at the school or institution shows commitment and helps the boys to develop trust in you, the process and themselves. Over time, they learn that if others can show up for them regularly, then they can show up for themselves.

Fifthly, to do this work you must be trained by BACK2LIFE. All our mentors are screened and have successfully completed approximately 42 hours of mentor training on our internationally accredited mentor training course. In addition, mentors commit to on-going mentor training.
*facilitators may be female, but they do not mentor

Read how some of our Mentors have helped change the life of young boys and have  motivated them to be better men here.

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The Qualities of a Mentor

Before becoming a mentor, here are a few things to understand about the role of mentoring at BACK2LIFE. Most of us have had a teacher, supervisor or coach who has been a mentor to us and made a positive difference in our lives. Those people wore many hats, acting as delegators, role models, cheerleaders, policy enforcers, advocates, and friends. Mentors assume these different roles during the course of a relationship, and share some basic qualities:

  • A sincere desire to be involved with a young person
  • Respect for young people
  • Active listening skills
  • Empathy
  • Ability to see solutions and opportunities
  • Flexibility

Register for Mentor Training

Give back and invest in the future of the Back2Life foundation by becoming a mentor. Your involvement will help future young mentees achieve the required competencies & life skills they need to become better individuals.